• Some serious Father and Son Bonding

    My husband and oldest son both had significant birthdays this year.  Hubby turned 50 (he won’t be happy to see this in print), and our son turned 13.  For a while they had both been talking about wanting to go to Washington, DC, and suggested we do it as a family.  Having been to DC before, I was reluctant to take our younger two.  The solution?  Surprise them with a trip to DC over Fall Break!

    It was time for some serious sightseeing.   They were gone for 4 nights and 5 days.  They went to the Holocaust Museum, Newsuem, Air and Space Museum and  National History Museum; that was enough museums for them!  Of course, they did some other sight seeing as well.  They went to Arlington Cemetery, The White House, Lincoln Memorial, etc….

    However, the best thing they did on the trip was build a stronger bond.  They have been sharing some their funny moments and have a few inside jokes.  I can imagine them having so many belly laughs as they were in the hotel room, eating and walking from place to place.  I would have loved to have been a mouse in the corner because I’m enjoying the little bit that we are seeing at home.  So glad they had a good time!

    I turn 50 when my daughter turns 13.  Where will we go?  Hmmmm….

    What were some of your bonding moments with your parents?  Do you have some bonding plans/memories with your own children?

     

     

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    1. Oct 25th
      Reply

      What an awesome idea to celebrate milestones in this way! I wracked my brain for a bonding memory with my parents, and the first thing that came to mind was going to the donut shop in the mornings with my dad before school. To this day, I always feel warm and fuzzy when I pass a donut shop 🙂

      • admin
        Oct 26th
        Reply

        Little did your parents know that trips to a donut shop would hold a special place in your heart. One never knows the impact we have on others. Wouldn’t it be great to still be able to have a donut each morning without putting on weight!

    2. I totally agree with Rachel…love this idea to celebrate milestones. I know when my husband and I have children we definitely want to create moments like this regularly where there is quality time spent with each parent alone and not both. Just to create that bond, create the memorable moments….so beautiful.

      Thank you for sharing this. I love seeing families that take time to do things like this.

      xoxo
      Alara Castell
      Purveyor of Prosperity & Laughter
      http://www.alaracastell.com

      • admin
        Oct 26th
        Reply

        When you have children, you will find that time flies and there isn’t a darn thing you can do about it. Thus, seize the moments!

    3. I love how much you love witnessing this special bond between your 2 guys…I remember driving places with my mom when I was a little. I was the map holder and reader and we would talk and giggle and I would be the guide. Mad me feel So important and I treasure those bonding times with my mama

      • admin
        Oct 26th
        Reply

        I’m glad that you have those good memories about helping your mom navigate on trips. Little did she know that it would mean so much to you!

    4. Oct 25th
      Reply

      Fabulous! I happen to think that experiences are more important than gifts – so the more things we do together the more we will have to remember. I had kind of a rough childhood, but I remember most the little trips we took and the backyard parties.

      • admin
        Oct 26th
        Reply

        I don’t think we really know what our kids will remember about their childhood. Sometimes it is the little things and others just remember the “highlights” or “lowlights”. I think they will both remember this trip though!

    5. Love that!! I say you take a cruise 🙂 I’m the one home with our daughter, so I am sure to schedule daddy/daughter time for my hubby so that they can continue their bond. He’s looking forward to her being a little bit older so they can go backpacking together. Until then, I send them off to Disneyland, the Safari Park, etc. I don’t have a lot of childhood memories… what does that say?? I was always with my mom and my dad wasn’t really around until I was an adult. I remember trips, but not “bonding times.”

      • admin
        Oct 26th
        Reply

        A cruise would be a great idea, especially one that had some adventures like snorkeling. Of course, I”d probably put on 10 pounds and she would just eat and eat. Not fair!

    6. One year my father visited me in Seattle when he was on a business trip. We went to the Market and had dinner in a nice restaurant. Afterwards, in his hotel, which had a lovely view of holiday lights, we talked about a family secret that I’d felt troubled about. It was a very deep connection for me and a deep bonding moment.

      Finding a way for parents and children to have private, personal time is so important! It doesn’t have to be serious–fun and silliness are great, too. Great idea to have the males take a trip and maybe you’ll do the same with your daughter. All the combinations!

      Judy Stone-Goldman
      The Reflective Writer
      http://www.thereflectivewriter.com
      Personal-Professional Balance Through Writing

      • admin
        Oct 26th
        Reply

        I agree that children need time alone with their parents–more than just mere minutes a day. Before you know it, they are gone so one must take advantage of both large and small opportunities.

    7. What a wonderful gift you gave your husband and your son. Not the trip so much as the time together. I’m sure it is something your son will always remember. I never had anything like that with my parents nor with my children. We struggled financially and I lived a lot in scarcity. I regret that now. You are doing a wonderful job with your family and you are all blessed. I can’t wait to hear about your time with your daughter on your significant birthdays.

      Susan Berland
      A Picture’s Worth
      http://susan-berland.com

    8. Oct 26th
      Reply

      Fabulous story about boy travel! The bonding memories I have are mostly with my father. We always watched scary movies or Spaghetti Westerns. We would stay up super late, make popcorn and he’d grab me a roar at the scary parts. It’s something I do with my kids. They love it as much as I did!

      My girls bond much more with my mom over sewing and projects–baking, embroidery, etc. And with my dad through shopping and swimming!

      Jillian
      Jillian Todd Portrait Couture
      http://www.jilliantodd.com
      http://www.jilliantoddblog.com
      Portrait Couture is for every woman who has looked in the mirror and not seen her own beauty.

    9. Lovely post and what a wonderful experience for your husband and son. It did make me cry though as I don’t remember ANY bonding experiences with my Mum. She was always too busy being a wife and a housekeeper. I do remember being read to by my Dad and playing chess with him so I was more connected with him. Just proves that making an effort to bond does work. I try to do things with each of my girls separately at times and so does my husband – so important!
      Louise Edington
      Breaking through online Frontiers
      http://louiseedington.com

      • admin
        Oct 27th
        Reply

        So glad that you are making time for your girls. Really, that is all kids want is our attention. Bonding happens when you spend time together–no matter what you are doing!

    10. What a lovely story! I think it is so important to have those bonding times between parent and child and the memories they create are like a security blanket you can pull out whenever you need it! When my daughter was little she and her dad would walk to the 7-11 store in our neighborhood every Sunday and he would get the newspaper and she would get some little treat, whatever she wanted. He also would take her to the pool in our complex during the summer and she enjoyed that tremendously. She and I have always bonded over shopping or cooking! As for me, the bonding i remember with my mom was when I helped her in the kitchen, and with my dad I would help him with his gardening. To this day, I enjoy the kitchen and love to garden!

      • admin
        Oct 27th
        Reply

        It sounds like your daughter has a lot of bonding memories with both of her parents. So often children just want our time, just as your mother spent with you in the kitchen and gardening. Your post made me smile!

    11. I remember a family trip to England, Scotland and Wales when I was 13 and another driving vacation from Michigan to Miami Beach when I was 16. It was fun. My older daughter and I have traveled alone together many times for long weekends and have had a blast. When she graduates from high school, we may to to China to revisit her place of birth, orphanage and all! My youngest, not so much. We can’t be together alone due to constant bickering and fighting. Very sad to me.

      • admin
        Oct 27th
        Reply

        I’m glad that you have fond memories of traveling when you were a child, and are making new ones with your oldest daughter. We will go to Colombia some day to visit our daughter’s birth country. What is the right age?? I’m sorry that you won’t be able to make these types of memories with your youngest daughter. It is sad to me as well.

    12. Travelling with someone can definitely help you strengthen your bond. I have appreciated trips with my parents for the same reason, the jokes shared and moments to be remembered. What a great idea to celebrate milestone birthdays with a joint trip – I’m sure they had a blast!

      • admin
        Oct 27th
        Reply

        As kids, I don’t think we remember the monuments or all the sightseeing, but rather the laughter and adventures (sometimes unplanned). We need to remember that as parents.

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